Intending to Return to her Ex-husband

14-2-2018 | IslamWeb

Question:

Aslaam alaikum Shaykh 1. I Read the case of Riffaa Al Quraizi ( ra ) that he divorced his Wife and she Married Abdur Rehman ibn Az zubayr( ra ) just to become permissible to to her first husband I am strongly confused that this Marriage is Not a Tahleel because Intention on the part of Woman does not count but how it is OK for a woman to use Another Man to become Permissible to her first this may hurt the feelings of the second husband and does this comes under the heading of Asking divorce for Invalid reason; I mean to say to marry Another while she is in the marriage bond of second husband
Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

The Hadeeth of Rifaa'a that you referred to in the question was reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim from 'Aa'ishah may Allaah be pleased with her and it is evidence that the intention of the woman to return to her first husband does not affect anything.

Ibn Abdul-Barr said in At-Tamheed:

“The saying of the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) to the wife of Rifaa’a, “Do you want to return to Rifaa’a?” is evidence that the intention of the wife to return to her first husband does not affect the one who concluded the marriage contract with her [i.e. the second husband], and her having this intention does not make her included in Tahleel (marrying a second husband after an irrevocable divorce just so that she can return to her first husband), which is a matter that makes the person deserving of the curse (of Allah).” [End of quote]

This is because (Islaamically) divorce is in the hand of the husband and not in her hand, so her intention did not affect (the marriage contract).

Ibn Qudaamah may Allaah have mercy upon him said:

“Ahmad said: the Hadeeth of the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) to the wife of Rifaa’a, “Do you want to return to Rifaa’a? and the intention of the wife, is of no effect. The Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “Allah has cursed the one who marries a divorced woman with the intention of making her lawful for her former husband and cursed the one for whom she is made lawful.” And because the contract becomes void by the intention of the husband, because he is the one in whose hand is the disposal of keeping his wife or divorcing her. As regards the wife, she cannot invalidate the marriage contract, so whether she had the intention or not, is the same.” [End of quote]

On the other hand, this intention from her is not considered as asking divorce, and it is not permissible for her to ask her second husband for divorce simply because she wants to go back to her first husband, and the second husband is not obliged to divorce her for that; rather, the matter is in his hand, he may keep her if he so wishes, or divorce her, if he so wishes.

Hence, the matter is only related to the intention, it has nothing to do with hurting the feelings of the second husband, and it is not permissible for her to agree with him on Tahleel or to condition that on him (in the marriage contract).

Allah knows best.

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